Read Laura's story
Realising you are a carer
I never once considered myself a carer
For years, I thought I was ‘just’ a mum, looking after my child and doing what any parent would do. My daughter struggled with speech development and was later diagnosed with Developmental Language Disorder (DLD), Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), and dyslexia. I spent countless hours researching, advocating, and navigating a system that often felt overwhelming, never once considering myself a ‘carer.’
It wasn’t until I started working for Action for Carers Surrey that I truly understood the role I had been playing all along.
Being a parent carer means more than just parenting – it means putting parts of your life on hold, taking on additional responsibilities, and prioritising someone else’s needs over your own.
Looking back, I wish I had known about Action for Carers sooner. I spent so much time trying to find help and the relevant information on my own, unaware that there were organisations ready to guide me through the journey.
Know that help is out there, and you are not alone.
Looking out for dad too
Now, alongside caring for my daughter, I also support my 89-year-old dad. He’s amazingly fit and healthy for his age, but he still needs help – whether it’s managing online bills, booking appointments, or making home-cooked meals. Like so many carers, I’ve realised how important it is to access the right information and support.
Despite the challenges, it is all about your love for each other. Being a carer has taught me patience, resilience, and the value of community.
It has also shown me the importance of looking after myself, too, because without ensuring your health and wellbeing is looked after, you cannot look after others the way you would want to. To anyone on a similar path, know that help is out there, and you are not alone.